Who’s my Role Model?

“Who is your role-model?”, She asked looking into my eyes.

“I don’t have one!”, I replied.

How come you don’t? See your friend Santosh has one, Bhavana has one. whom do you want to be…”

“I want to be like Mahesh Babu…”, I replied stopping her mid-way.

This was an anecdote narrated by a 5 year old to his father in crowded bus I took on my way back to the home from office. And this made me wonder….Who is my role-model?

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Ignorance is bliss!!!

Few days back during one of our late-night brother talks, I was talking to him about the different ways of looking at things in life.  The way I look might be different from the way my brother looks. And the talk took an interesting turn when I announced “No love in this world is pure or divine. Everything is need based. Everything is like a simple business transaction

And I went on to say “Even mother’s love is not pure

Mother's LOVE

Mother’s LOVE

In the dark room with little light from the bed lamp, I could see the ugly frown on his face. He was disappointed to hear it   from me. He has this whole box of orthodox values and disliked discussions on controversial topics like the one I just spoke out.

There was an awkward silence for the next two minutes. I wanted to share my views and have a healthy discussion on this topic. But I am equally frightened with where this discussion might lead to.

My brother broke the silence and said “I am disappointed. I never expected to hear things like this from you. But let me understand why you said this. Go on. Share your thoughts

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Wallet Lost. Found Compassion!

19 Jan 2013

 I boarded the 218 bus number from JNTU and my destination was NIMS Hospital bus stop. The bus was not that crowded and I was lucky enough to get a seat. After 10 minutes, the conductor arrived for punching the tickets. I took out my wallet and gave him a hundred rupee note. He punched a ticket of Rs.11 and gave back the change. I placed the notes in my wallet and held the wallet in my hand. I was chitchatting with other friend of mine who accompanied me till Mytri Vanam bus stop. All this while, the wallet was safe in my hands, and my hands on my backpack.

30 minutes passed.

My friend alighted at his stop and I took out my ‘dabba’ Nokia phone to check mails. All this while, the wallet was safe in my hands, and my hands on my backpack. Continue reading

The ‘F’ letter word

Life is not a straight path between birth and death. It is like a silk thread twisted umpteen times and is full of twists and turns, ups and downs. We all aspire for something to have in our lives.

A few might get what they want and the most of them, like me, are still finding what exactly makes them get it what they want. But still the journey continues, no matter you get or don’t get what you wanted.

Life is the best mentor one can ever get. Only thing is that you should be willing to take cues from the life and live it to the fullest.

Today, I wanted to share things that most of us would have aspired at different stages of my life and what one can learn from them. Rather, what life teaches us from them as our best friend!

@ 5 years – wanted to play with as many toys. Wanted to break them, remove the screws or levers and see what’s inside

@ 10 years – wanted to become a cricket player. Very possessive of your friends, things, toys and many more

@ 15 years – Wanted to have a gang of 15 to 20 friends. Hang out and enjoy as much as one can

@ 20 years – a couple of good friends for life and an aspiring career

@ 25 years – a goal in life to achieve and few friends whom you consider them as an integral part of your life

(Stopped @ 25 as I can’t comment on years after that without me experiencing it)

As a 5 year old child, each of us is pure at heart. We had no idea of rich, poor, bad, good, beautiful, ugly, caste, religion. The best part of the life every one of us lived but we had no idea what we were experiencing then.

As a 10 year old kid, you are extremely possessive. You feel offended for silly things, fight over petty issues and consider everyone in your class as your best friend. You get to have the first taste of a feeling called “friendship”.

As a 15 year old boy, you wanted to have a group with whom you share common interests. You wanted to enjoy as if there is no tomorrow. You are proud of what you are, how you are and support your friends to the greatest extent. Sometimes, more than your family!

As a 20 year old teen, you wanted to experience the world as you come out of your college studies. You wanted to have a couple of friends, say 3 to 5, with whom you can share everything. They are your moral supporters and you feel free to share things that you even cant share with your family members (Yes, it is common. Don’t you think?). You feel stronger, more confident, refreshing when you talk to them.

As a 25 year old man, you set a goal, be it personal or professional. And one goal that everyone aspires is to have at least one friend for life time. You may have by then a friend or two with whom you feel you are the real “You”. You feel they are the integral part of your life and with whom you life is incomplete.

Friend”…

This is something what everyone, irrespective of what they are, wanted to have in their life. At least, one!

So, my dear friends…

As a friend, you are one of the most important persons in your friend’s life. Don’t ever try to mislead, cheat, or deceive your friends.

Your friend,

WOW # 1 – “The Best thing in life is…”

The Best thing in life is…umm…hmmm…I think….aahh…the weekend time

 If your immediate response is “Yes…yes…indeed it is”, then you must be an IT employee working during weekdays, counting each day and wondering when Friday evening would come.

If your response is something like “What the @!#!#”, then you are either a non IT employee or an IT employee who is being made to work on weekends too!!

Yes, the answer ‘weekend time’ is a pathetic one to fit the blank for “The best thing in life is….”, but that is how things are at present. I believe that most of the working professionals, especially the ‘Hi-tech’ people, would get this first on their mind if asked to fill the blank.

Yes, the good old days are over forever. Welcome to 21st century!!! The days where you can go out for a dinner with the family on weekdays is a myth now. The “9 to 5” jobs are obsolete. The pleasure of having no pressure means that you are, probably, retired by now.

Now-a-days, we stay connected to our family via smart phones and social media. We go early to work only to return home late. We are in the times where life changes in seconds. May be this is why we switched to pay per second plans for our pre/post-paid mobiles. The time is running and we are in action to meet our deadlines. The paychecks are high and so are the add-ons like pressure, mental stress and extended timings.

I still remember the days when I came back to home from school by 4 pm and my dad from office by 6 pm.  Then we would go for a casual walk or to the market nearby to get the groceries. And now, what are we doing at 6 pm? Probably, having a client call with a lazy American or trying hard to interpret what the French guy is speaking on the other side of the phone. The children too are still stuck up in the school – tied to the benches with books on the desk. The school authorities call it ‘study hours’. Yes, we are living in the times where even a primary school student goes for the ‘IIT’ coaching classes.

The times have changed. Back then, most of us would have waited for the LTC trip (probably every two or three years) to visit a distant place. Right from the day dad/mom applies for LTC, we would start counting the days to begin the travel. We had ample time to spend, ample time to share our memories and ample time to relax and look at how our lives are shaping up. Now, LTC is now not being applied as either most of us now work in the private sector or we don’t have our children getting holidays for a week or two. The only time we can spend ‘quality time’ with our family is “The Weekend Time”

 You are still not convinced with the answer (Of course, I don’t force you to agree on this). In that case, a questionnaire awaits for you.

1. When do you get the time to wake up from your bed at 9 or 10 in the morning?

     a. Weekday  b. Weekend

2. When can you see your kids troubling your wife while they take their bath?

    a. Weekday  b. Weekend

3. When do you get to spend time and talk with your parents (mind it, not in a hurry) or take them for a regular health check-up?

    a. Weekday  b. Weekend

4. When can you teach your kids how to solve a problem in Math?

   a. Weekday  b. Weekend

5. When can you take your family out for a dinner or a shopping or a movie?

   a. Weekday  b. Weekend

6. When do you get ample time to talk to your girl friend during ‘day time’?

   a. Weekday  b. Weekend

7. When is that you will get time to “look” at your neighbor’s beautiful daughter?

   a. Weekday  b. Weekend

8. When do you get time to go for a casual walk with your loved one or your son/daughter?

   a. Weekday  b. Weekend

9. When is that you will get time to pursue your interests?

   a. Weekday  b. Weekend

10. When do you get the time to participate in wonderful contests like ‘WOW’ by Blog Adda?

   a. Weekday  b. Weekend

Having asked these questions, I am not here to provide scores based on how many a’s or b’s you get. This is not a questionnaire about the “Personality development” where in the ‘expert’ judges the respondent based on the scores he/she gets. This is a gentle reminder for you in case if you are missing on enjoying the subtle and simple things that you come across in your life. Next time, watch out for such things and enjoy the life. It’s not that these happen only during the weekends, but from my point of view, that is the best time to observe such simple things that bring great difference on how you look at your life. And hence for me, “The best thing in the life is The Weekend Time

 

This post is a part of  Write Over the Weekend, an initiative for Indian Bloggers  by BlogAdda

Life’s Overloading…

Sometimes you can never think that this is going to happen, but it happens!!! Confused???? Sometimes you expect life to give you nothing, but it gives you shit!!!There are at times when you want to go back and re-live your life in the way you wanted. But you can’t. You want to stay with your friends, but the moment you get this thought,you get the news that they are moving to another place…far from where you stay. You sometimes damn feel like expressing the feelings, but you can’t. You don’t want to move from the place you stay in, but you are forced to move out. Sometimes you want to get nightmares in the night, but you don’t even get some sleep. These are some of the times when you want to damn your life. But in turn, it damns you.

What should you do? What is the plan of acton you must follow to give a big damn response to all these events?

Here are some of the answers one normally comes across….

a) let the life push you around and you just accept it because it’s
after all your life .
b) Just think of these events and cry out till the last drop of tear in
your eyes and feel relaxed and great about what you have done!!
c) Go and stay with your friends. Enjoy these short moments that
lasts for ever. Just tell them what you want to.Just express
yourself. Think positively and act accordingly. All that happens is
for your better life.
d) Just leave this dumb shit things happening in life. And you just
live like a saint or atleast pretend to live like a monk. Things may
get worse or may improve, but you dont care what happens and
just move forward.
e) Unable to understand whats happening in my life. So I won’t
attempt this question.

It all depends on how and what you think, how and What you want to do. It all you who matters. It’s you who need to take the decision. A
decision that can change your life. A life in a way you wanted it to
be…

Still Confused?? Did you feel “What kind of scrappy shit is this post?”…It’s just a random thought of a budding “professional” sittting infront of a 1998 model computer with 128MB ram and 1.3Ghz processor with a system time of 5:41 PM.

My First Valentine…

We all love to love others and get loved by them. It’s basic human nature.  Today on the eve of Valentines Day, my thoughts travel back to my childhood days and my first valentine. Yes, my first valentine at the age of 5 years.

I was in Anantapur when I was about 4 yrs. We stayed at All India Radio quarters in first floor. In the ground floor, right below us lived my first and best friend Vaishnavi. She is a Tamilian. She is a sweet girl and we used to always stay together. She used to study first standard while I was in UKG. We were in same school and travelled in the school bus sitting side by side. We really enjoyed each others presence. We always played together, read together, and at times take nap together under the banyan tree near our home. It’s one of the most memorable times I had in my life.

My other friends always teased us for staying together and they spread the news that we were in love (See how the little minds think at the age of 7 and 8 😛 ). In fact, that was the first time I came across the word “LOVE”. I don’t know the meaning of it then and I thought that we are in love as my friends were saying so. I even told her “I Love You” and she in turn said “I too Love You”. And this was how she became my first valentine of my life. The first kiss of my life was given to Vaishnavi, my first valentine, on the last day of my first standard half-yearly exams. The days were going great with Vaishu beside me and playing together in the ground, in the fields and around the banyan tree.

But this happiness didn’t last too long. The final exams came and with it, the summer holidays too. I left Anantapur and came to Vizag to visit my grand parents. I returned back after a month and I was shocked to know that Vaishnavi’s dad got transferred to Coimbatore. I never saw her again in my life. I missed her very much. May be, she too. This was how my first (last till date) Valentine ended in a bit of tragedy.

This is the story of my first Valentine and I am still single :P. I think everyone has their first Valentine in their life at some stage or the other. What’s your first valentine story?